I heard this quote recently, and it really stuck with me. I repeated it to myself a few times trying to understand it. Once I did, it hit home. I haven’t blogged for awhile, not due to lack of content, but lack of time. I would say I was feeling very motivated, and was attracting a lot of work. I was even offered two jobs. That led to a bit of depression and stress because I always want to help people, but I can’t add working for someone else to my already full plate. I hadn’t seen many friends as often as I normally do, things were spiraling, and I was stuck at home glued to my computer. I love my work. I love to design, I love consulting, I love social media and marketing. BUT, I also love painting, making jewelry, blogging, skating, and karaoke with friends. I’ve been missing that part in my life. The sadness and stress changed what I watched and listened to while I worked. Josh finally said something. He said “you’re always watching sad stuff now, what happened to the cute shows?” his question made me pause. Sometimes it takes hearing something a few times for it to sink in, he wasn’t the only one voicing concerns. I was just stuck in the thick of it. I’m not complaining about being busy with work. I’m very grateful for the client work and online sales that pay my bills, it feels good helping people and having people appreciate my designs. I also have my pt gig, and my board chair responsibilities. My calendar has been super packed. I have been able to make it out to planner meetups, speak on a panel, work with a local creative community, and have tea with friends. I just need a little more of that in my life. So to combat “what you feel, you attract” I’ve been trying to tie up things, and have been making plans with friends. I forced myself to start watching cute stuff again, and suddenly, I was back to my happy, peppy self. Which is where I need to stay, because happiness is what breeds cute designs.
“What you imagine, you become”
This is a tough one, too. I think we can unintentionally become someone we don’t want to be if we’re not careful. If something bad happens to you, you feel like you’re a victim, but if you’re not careful, you’ll feel like that after the bad moment has passed and you’ll allow yourself to stay a victim. People can also transform themselves to be who they think they need to be in order to impress their “friends”. That always makes me sad. Real friends will accept you as you are. If you feel like you need to dress a certain way, or live a certain way to hang out with your “friends”, I’m sorry to tell you, but you may need new friends. Of course there’s the “big bad”, social media, which can make you have FOMO real bad, making you want to change up what you’re doing. A friend recently told me that in her mind I’m having tea parties with friends every week. I have accidentally made my life play out that way on Instagram. If she followed me on Twitter, she’d probably have a different take on my life. ha! Please don’t imagine yourself as “less than” or as a victim. Imagine yourself happy to be who you are, just as you are.
I like the idea of “what you imagine, you become” it reminds me that I can control my life, I can become the person I want to be. For me, being the person I want to be can be exhausting. I was raised to help people in need. I tend to put friends in need ahead of my own needs. That’s when I need the reminder that you put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
“What you think, you create”
This one I feel the strongest about. I think we all need to have a positive attitude, then we can create positivity, and positivity is infectious. If we’re always judging people and being competitive, then we’re creating negativity. There’s nothing cute about negativity or being a “mean girl”. That’s a grumpy place to live in. Inspiring people with kindness is the best thing we can do. It doesn’t take a lot to show genuine kindness.
You can’t fake any of these, either. Well, you can to the public, if you want, but at the end of the day, when you’re alone, don’t you want to feel proud of what you’re putting out into the world? Yesterday I was texting with a friend about life, and I told her that I appreciated how honest and real she is. I don’t even think she knows how to be fake, which is awesome. She just is who she is, and let’s people accept her for who she is. Maybe you think she must be so confident, and that’s not you, but it’s not about confidence. It’s about faith. Faith that you will attract the people that should be in your life. We all have parts of us that we wish were better, maybe you wish you were skinnier, curvier, stronger, made more money, had a “cool job”, whatever it is that’s “lacking” in your life doesn’t have to be that way forever. If you let your friends know the real you, they could help you with your goals.
There has been a lot of bad stuff in the news recently, and it can certainly have an impact on us. We get to decide what kind of impact. For this “Motivational Monday” I hope you get motivated to take control of your life, to own it, to not be a victim, to inspire people, to spread kindness, and to remind yourself that if you need a change in your life, there’s no better way to do it than with support from your friends.
Now get your cute shoes on and take charge of today!